Gentle thoughts of love

I have spoken about this in the past multiple times but it still seems to be one of those things that are hard to learn for most of us. When we think of love, we think of the love we hold for others in our life. We strive for deeply satisfying relationships and wonder why we don't achieve them most of the time. The problem really doesn't lay with those around us, it is something we our self are causing to be honest.

Before you start throwing stones at me allow me to give you the reasons behind this little statement.

• When we are purely focused on everyone else we let our self go. We don't take care of our body, our mind or our spirit. We become co-dependent on everyone elses approval and self-worth. This is not only unattractive to most normal people, but it can be extremely suffocating to those who are in a relationship with us. Yes, everyone wants to feel important to their partner, but unless you are a narcissistic personality who thinks that only their opinion, interests and desires matter this can be overwhelming.
• If we don't love our self we attract very negative and abusive people into our life. Since we are giving the vibe of "I am not worth" a lot out to the universe, those who get off on being negative and abusive will be the once who come to you. Try to avoid that please!
• By loving yourself you will be able to evolve since the focus of your being is to be the best you can be.
• It will make you a much happier person and someone who is secure in themselves. That is always sexy!

Now of course I am not talking about loving yourself to the exclusion of everything else. Just like all things in life you need to have a bit of balance here. If you are becoming a narcissistic asshole or bitch, you just went over the line as well. Nobody likes being around someone like that for long.

Remember that loving yourself simply means you are ok with being by yourself from time to time. Are happy with who you have become and are willing to put the effort you need to be the best you can be into yourself. You realize that you are important and have worth without it being depend on anyone else. A very healthy mindset.

If you come from a place of love, you attract love. If you think love means that everything is always easy and that those you love have to cowtow down to you all the time, never speak their mind, or that you never have to put any effort into anything I wish you luck. I am sure that can happen in a perfect world from time to time, but for most of us that won't be the case.

Love comes in many shades and forms. To me something worth having is worth all the effort I put in to keep it sweet. Trust me at least one person will have to make the effort and if it isn't you then it is your partner. The only difference is that if you are really in love with someone it won't feel like you are putting effort in. You will be happy to do it so it becomes simply a natural thing to do. Now looking at it that way, I wonder how many of us are that fortunate.

The same goes for loving yourself. If you truly love yourself putting some effort into yourself won't be so hard. It will feel like the natural thing to do.

What do you think about this statement?
Have a nice day.

Regina S.