Thursday, January 19, 2012
I get that a lot lately, that really hard to swallow feeling that I am talking to a wall and I might as well do so, since there is nothing coming back at me.
See the whole point of a conversation is to interact with one another. To voice a thought, make a statement, ask a question, and than it is answered with someone else's thought, opinion etc. This goes on for a while like that until both sides feel the topic has been now exhausted. Simple concept right? Wrong, apparently, since as of late there is no conversation of any kind happening.
Now in me at least it causes a serious feeling of frustration and at times even bordering on anger. Bordering, because I won't allow it to go there. I see constantly living in anger as a big waste of time and energy. Yes folks we can control how we feel! Maybe not all the time, but most of the time we can process through unwanted emotional bursts in record time and dismiss them.
What makes it hard is that lately it seems as if it isn't just in my home, but pretty much with everyone I encounter. Now I am not saying that nobody is talking to me, far from it. Matter of fact I have plenty of people trying to talk to me, it just seems that unless it is about what they want to talk about, the conversations comes to a stand still.
My blogs get plenty of views for as new as they are, and I am grateful to those of you who are tweeting them for me. Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. I would love to see some comments so too. See to me that is the point of writing a blog, to share information and thoughts with one another.
I share my experiences and opinions openly so you in turn can feel comfortable enough to do the same with yours. That is how we all learn from each other, but that back and forth sharing.
My beloved Dragon (chuckles I am talking about my hubby here) is so completely stuck in "gun land" lately that there is no conversation almost that doesn't include something about guns of some sort. Hell this morning when I finally got up the first thing out of his mouth to me was all about Gun Ranges he was checking out. Now I know that my honey is a one track minded individual and I really wish at times I could be more of the same, but he is also obsessive as hell when it comes to his interests. Something that makes it really hard to swallow. I wanted to tell him "And a good morning, I love you too!", but swallowed it quickly. That would simply cause an unnecessary argument and for him to clam down for the next 4 Days. Not something I want to deal with and honestly really not necessary either. He isn't realizing that he is doing something "wrong" by being this single minded about nothing but HIS interests.
Now I did tell him (he probably would call it nag him instead - seems when women say something we are always nagging) that I really would appreciate more support and some interest in my writing. So stoic dear man that he is actually sat through 45 min. of me talking about my goals, plans and dreams for my books I am selling (while having his mind somewhere else the entire time I might add. Yup I can see the shutters coming down sweetie). Stoic, because not a single damn word came out of his mouth even so I gave him plenty of opportunities to chimn in and give me his thoughts and suggestions. Hells bells that is why I was talking to him (or more at him it seems) about it. If I just wanted to talk about my writing without getting any thoughts back I could have just blogged it out for crying out loud.
The problem is that I value his opinion highly and it is my hope for him to share in my interests from time to time. That is what he wants from me. Well long story short, as soon as I changed the subject back to guns you couldn't shut him up.
Guess that takes me full circle. All about feeling as if I am talking to a Wall. Not a pleasant feeling and if I wasn't so secure in who I am now that I am much older it would have resulted in what it would have done many years ago when my kids were still little and I was still married to my first husband. I would be giving up right now. It is really hard to stay strong, when there is so little interest and support from those you love when it comes to something you are passionate about. Maybe it is because I am a woman, or maybe it is because I love him so much, but his strength and support in more than just allowing me the time I need to write is necessary for me to continue on doing it in a twisted way. Sometimes I think our spouses or loved ones really don't know just how important they are to us and how much their support means to us. Especially when we realize (and I do realize it) that they really don't share our dream.
I do have to give him at least one credit, I will never just give a bad example. He did actually listen to me read one article to him yesterday which I wrote for http://theopionatedwriter.com but of course it was about a subject he feels passionate about as well. Regardless so at least he did listen to it and ended up giving me a one sentence (holy cow a full sentence that is epic for him) response. "That about sums it up!"
Now my question to you my dearest readers is the following:
Do you ever feel like you are talking to a wall, either in your own personal life or when writing a blog and nobody responds to it? How do you deal with it?
Thank you for reading.
See the whole point of a conversation is to interact with one another. To voice a thought, make a statement, ask a question, and than it is answered with someone else's thought, opinion etc. This goes on for a while like that until both sides feel the topic has been now exhausted. Simple concept right? Wrong, apparently, since as of late there is no conversation of any kind happening.
Now in me at least it causes a serious feeling of frustration and at times even bordering on anger. Bordering, because I won't allow it to go there. I see constantly living in anger as a big waste of time and energy. Yes folks we can control how we feel! Maybe not all the time, but most of the time we can process through unwanted emotional bursts in record time and dismiss them.
What makes it hard is that lately it seems as if it isn't just in my home, but pretty much with everyone I encounter. Now I am not saying that nobody is talking to me, far from it. Matter of fact I have plenty of people trying to talk to me, it just seems that unless it is about what they want to talk about, the conversations comes to a stand still.
My blogs get plenty of views for as new as they are, and I am grateful to those of you who are tweeting them for me. Thank you so much, I really appreciate it. I would love to see some comments so too. See to me that is the point of writing a blog, to share information and thoughts with one another.
I share my experiences and opinions openly so you in turn can feel comfortable enough to do the same with yours. That is how we all learn from each other, but that back and forth sharing.
My beloved Dragon (chuckles I am talking about my hubby here) is so completely stuck in "gun land" lately that there is no conversation almost that doesn't include something about guns of some sort. Hell this morning when I finally got up the first thing out of his mouth to me was all about Gun Ranges he was checking out. Now I know that my honey is a one track minded individual and I really wish at times I could be more of the same, but he is also obsessive as hell when it comes to his interests. Something that makes it really hard to swallow. I wanted to tell him "And a good morning, I love you too!", but swallowed it quickly. That would simply cause an unnecessary argument and for him to clam down for the next 4 Days. Not something I want to deal with and honestly really not necessary either. He isn't realizing that he is doing something "wrong" by being this single minded about nothing but HIS interests.
Now I did tell him (he probably would call it nag him instead - seems when women say something we are always nagging) that I really would appreciate more support and some interest in my writing. So stoic dear man that he is actually sat through 45 min. of me talking about my goals, plans and dreams for my books I am selling (while having his mind somewhere else the entire time I might add. Yup I can see the shutters coming down sweetie). Stoic, because not a single damn word came out of his mouth even so I gave him plenty of opportunities to chimn in and give me his thoughts and suggestions. Hells bells that is why I was talking to him (or more at him it seems) about it. If I just wanted to talk about my writing without getting any thoughts back I could have just blogged it out for crying out loud.
The problem is that I value his opinion highly and it is my hope for him to share in my interests from time to time. That is what he wants from me. Well long story short, as soon as I changed the subject back to guns you couldn't shut him up.
Guess that takes me full circle. All about feeling as if I am talking to a Wall. Not a pleasant feeling and if I wasn't so secure in who I am now that I am much older it would have resulted in what it would have done many years ago when my kids were still little and I was still married to my first husband. I would be giving up right now. It is really hard to stay strong, when there is so little interest and support from those you love when it comes to something you are passionate about. Maybe it is because I am a woman, or maybe it is because I love him so much, but his strength and support in more than just allowing me the time I need to write is necessary for me to continue on doing it in a twisted way. Sometimes I think our spouses or loved ones really don't know just how important they are to us and how much their support means to us. Especially when we realize (and I do realize it) that they really don't share our dream.
I do have to give him at least one credit, I will never just give a bad example. He did actually listen to me read one article to him yesterday which I wrote for http://theopionatedwriter.com but of course it was about a subject he feels passionate about as well. Regardless so at least he did listen to it and ended up giving me a one sentence (holy cow a full sentence that is epic for him) response. "That about sums it up!"
Now my question to you my dearest readers is the following:
Do you ever feel like you are talking to a wall, either in your own personal life or when writing a blog and nobody responds to it? How do you deal with it?
Thank you for reading.
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