Gentle thoughts of love

I don't know why people assume that love is always as easy as breathing. That love only is true love when there are no arguments, no misunderstandings, no disagreements. When it flows smoothly, with no boredom and one person doing 100% exactly what the other one wants them to do at all times.

That isn't love, well it is a form of love and you find it often in a D/s relationship with the Master or Mistress, running the show and the slave obeying without a second thought. Blessed be that sort of relationship, since arguements will by its nature be seldom.

But what about a regular vanilla everyday relationship, where the Partners are equals. When both have the same rights and responsibilities? Now it shifts, there is no slave to obey blindly, no Dom/me to control all. Here you must make a decision to compromise. A decision to agree to disagree and most importantly a decision to forgive each other.

Love happens, not only when everything is perfect (that is easy), but when the arguments are over, in the middle of hard times, when you don't know if you want to strangle your partner or hug them. That is when love happens, deep and drew love. It isn't easy, it isn't a constant one gives and the other one takes. It is a give and take in equal measures and most of the time that means also in strive. Sad but true, but just think if you have someone who loves you and you love in return and you can fight with each other and come out on the other end loving each other still...Isn't that a worth of being called a love worth celebrating?

We all get old, we all loose our looks. Why is the one person we swore our love to not good enough? Why must we human beings always look somewhere else, when the one whom we can depend on is sitting right beside us. Divorce rates are high and not dropping anytime soon. Why is that? I tell you why, because too many of us, don't want to have to work on the most important thing in their life. Their love relationship with their beloved other.

Take a close look at your marriage vows one day and try to remember what you have actually promised.

In sickness and in health. In good times and in bad times. "til Death will do us apart.

Those are heavy words my friends. Now of course if one of you two has lied or no longer loves the other one, you can't force them. You are not required to stay in a toxic and loveless relationship. Just make 100% sure that before you walk out, you have done everything you possibly can to make it better first. If you must leave, do so with love and out of love. To set your partner free to find what you could not give to them. Do not hurt them more then you must.

Exit as you entered ....with the spirit of love and devotion and bless them on their way.

For that too is a form of love. A very deep and spiritual love!